The submissive is usually accompanied by a trainer, mentor or another Dominant who will speak on the submissive’s behalf. This chosen Dominant will give a testimony on the submissive’s character and commitment to the D/s lifestyle. If this Dominant is the trainer, mentor or protector of this submissive, they will be required to release the submissive from their care at the beginning of the ceremony.
The submissive may have one or two “sisters” in attendance, who will stand by him/her as they await the beginning of the collaring.
The Dominant will usually be accompanied by one or two of His/Her closest friends or those who helped prepare for their role as “Master or Mistress.” One of them usually carries the collar for the Dominant who is about to claim their submissive.
DRESS AND APPEARANCE
The submissive usually wears a simple garment, often a tunic-type dress for females and a similar garment for males that may include trousers and resemble pajamas. The garb is plain but neat and attractive, signifying the submissive’s role as a servant or handmaiden. The neckline of the garment is collarless and completely exposes the submissive’s neck. The submissive may wear wrist, ankle and body jewelry but there is seldom anything worn on the head, such as earrings, and never is there anything worn around the neck other than the submissive’s training collar, if they had one. This training collar will be removed during the beginning of the ceremony. The reason of the lack of adornment of the head is to keep from diminishing the collar that will be placed around the submissive’s neck during the actual collaring. If the female has long hair it should be worn off the neck and pinned securely to her head. Often it is braided into a plait and twisted at the back of the head. Small flowers may be worked into the hair if they are not overwhelming and are firmly secured.
The Dominant should be well dressed and often appears in formal or semi-formal attire. Fetish clothing is acceptable in some situations and the Dominant might choose to wear leathers or other “costume” type articles of clothing. Most often the Dominant will be seen dressed as a country gentleman or lady of breeding and position.
Everyone has their own style and personal tastes which should be reflected in the way the couple presents themselves. Just keep in mind this is a very serious ceremony and good judgment should prevail when choosing the look for their own special day.
The submissive usually carries only one item, the leash. Some female submissives carry a single flower that she offers to the Dominant, who then places it in His lapel. A male submissive may carry a small bouquet of flowers to present his soon-to-be Mistress as a gesture of his affection.
The Dominant carries a crop or dressage whip as a symbol of His/Her dominance in the lifestyle.
THE BEGINNING OF THE CEREMONY:
Welcome all. We gather in this place at this moment to observe and celerate two journeys met, one of time and the other of distance. Two souls, two bodies, two hearts and two destinies will be bonded before us. They celebrate their commitment together as one. The power they will exchange binds them together as surely as any rope or chain ever could. It is the locking of hearts, minds, spirits, and souls. It strengthens them and makes them one.
submissive and her attendants move to the front of the room, the trainer/mentor representing the submissive in the lead. If the submissive was under the care of another Dominant, such as a protector, trainer or mentor, they give their testimony about the character of their charge and officially release the sub from their care and protection. If she/he wore a training collar, it is removed at this time. he/she is then declared to be a free slave and may make their own choices from this point. The Dominant with their attendants moves to the front, to the right. Any statement about the character or accomplishments of the Dominant is made at this time by the person chosen to speak on His/Her behalf. Any other submissives that are collared by this Dominant are to be in attendance and seated near the front of the room on the right side, and remain silent in a respectful position.
After the testimony is given, the submissive, with leash in hand, walks toward the Dominant and attendants. she/he offers her/his leash:
I offer this leash to you to guide me and lead me along my journey though life. It is my desire to belong to You and to follow You whereever You choose to take me.
At this time the Dominant takes the leash from the slave and states His/Her acceptance of the submissive’s offer of themselves.
I accept this leash as a symbol of the offering of yourself and give My promise to carefully guide you and lead you safely in My footsteps. You will belong to Me from this day on and I will do all within My power to protect you as you join Me on My journey.
The Dominant then asks the submissive to kneel before them and takes the collar to place it around their neck.
Will you kneel at My feet and take this symbol of My ownership to wear as a sign to us and those we meet on our journey?
The submissive then kneels, head held straight but eyes looking to the floor. This will be the last time she/he is “asked” to kneel.
i kneel as a sign of my submission to You and acceptance of the symbol of Your ownership. i will wear it proudly for all of my days, Sir/Miss. i accept the conditions of my service and respect the secrets of Your heart written on this paper. i will honor and love You as i serve you to the best of my ability. i will open my heart, body and mind to Your will, trusting that You have my best interests in Your heart. my submission to You will be a gift freely given and shall never become a burden that i must bear. i am now a part of You and will respect You and Your dominance over me as our lives and destinies have become one.
The Dominant then places the collar around the submissive’s neck and fastens it securely.
You now belong to me. I accept your desire to serve me and the secrets of your heart written on this paper. I will honor your feelings and needs. I will always put your best interests foremost in my dominance over you. You belong to me, thus you are now a part of my body and soul. Your happiness, health and well-being are in my care and I will thoughtfully tend to them because you are a part of me and my destiny.
i now belong to you, Master/Mistress.
This is the first time the Dominant has been called Master or Mistress and is a very moving moment in the ceremony. The Dominant now attaches the leash to the collar as His/Her commitment to lead and guide the submissive from this day forward. The couple embrace and show signs of their affection for each other. If the Dominant had other submissives who are collared by them this is the time their new sister or brother is introduced as part of the family.
Now you will feel no cold, for each of you will be warmth to the other. There will be no more loneliness, now, there are two lives, but there is only one life before you. We now celebrate with feast and share in your joy and love. Everyone, I present to you, Master/Mistress (name) and His/Her owned slave (name).